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I’m currently Feng Shui’ing my house (in small DIY chunks that I understand).
I’ve shifted some furniture around (slightly) and moved items of certain colours into specific areas. It’s amazing how different I feel with just that! The environment feels “lifted” somehow.

We’ve only being in this home for 4 months, but in some ways I’ve gotten so used to things being where they are. Already. It’s as though our things are taken for granted and hence stagnated in some way.

It made me wonder in what… Continue

As coaches, we’re trained to listen out for the language people use when they talk. It’s reflective of their state of mind.

Perhaps you’re unaware of how you speak? And therefore of how you feel and what you believe?

As a first step become conscious of that continuous voice in your head. Hear the words it uses when talking (internally and externally).

How often do you use the word “they”, or “everyone” instead of “I”?
How often do you use the word “should” or “must” instead of “want”?

For ex… Continue

How much time do you spend worrying?

What is your worry?
Finances? Your Relationships? Your children? Your Future?

What is it that you’re holding onto?

It’s tiring and energy-consuming to hold onto things you’ve created. You may have seen the email joke which involves clicking on a specific area of the screen, only to have it dart away as soon as your mouse hovers over it? The frustration is the moment you attempt to click on it – it disappears!

The same is true of life; the more you chase a… Continue

I saw a peacock today!
Yes – I’m quite excited. I haven’t seen one for many years.

What really makes me proud is that I was on my way to an appointment. Fearing I’d be late, my foot got heavier and my speedometer increased and I felt myself becoming anxious.

Luckily, because I already have a ticket on my desk at home, I pulled back and decided to keep within the speed limit.
And that’s when I saw it!

Of course being the analytical air sign that I am, I looked up the meaning of a peacock. And… Continue

So often I hear “After all, we’re only human” or “That’s fine, you’re just human.”
You’ve probably said it yourself as a placating remark to console the “human” you’re talking to at the time.

But what are you really saying?
Is this a sense somehow of forgiving others (and yourself!) for being human? (i.e. for being yourself?)
Surely this is not necessary?

Therefore, do these words reflect an underlying belief that Jane’s (for example) behaviour is not really acceptable, but rather understandab… Continue